Weve been dating for six months
I tried to be my best self with him—warm, patient, and kind. He said he didn’t feel they way he thought he should—that after six months you should be ready to seriously commit to the person you’re dating. I’d listened to his frustrations after bad days at work.
But I didn’t forget what he had said at the two-month mark. I told him that I would miss him, but that I accepted his decision, and that he should go before I said something not so nice. He texted me later to say that I meant a lot to him and that he was sorry. He’d listened attentively to my analyses of favorite TV shows and reminded me to put on sunscreen when we went outside.
So I wasn’t wrong.” *** I thought about my little project often as Daniel and I continued to date.
Sometimes it reassured me—perhaps we didn’t need to profess our love yet!
“The fact is that what remains, I think permanently, is a frustrated confusion over whether I fell in love with a fiction or a fact that altered,” he wrote.
According to an early 2016 survey of 2,000 people, the average couple says “I love you” after about five months.After all, if you’re not with a person anymore, maybe you didn’t really know in the first place.The most notable exception was my uncle, who has been divorced for a couple of years.And if there was, I certainly didn’t think it happened at the two-month mark.The conversation got me thinking: At what point do people know they’ve met the “right” person?