Tips on dating a black man
Banky:  Because the other three are figments of your f**king imagination!
Often, they just haven’t found a compatible match, or they’re self-aware enough to realize that they still need to work on themselves before bringing another person in their lives. This feeling alludes to the common stereotype of the successful black women and her unrealistic and uncompromising standards—think any character Gabrielle Union has ever played—an idea Berook quickly shoots down: It’s not that sistas’ standards are too high.
As a man, I’d feel a certain way if I had a girlfriend but I wasn’t able to take care of her.
Nothing special, but you’d like to be able to at least go the movies every weekend and buy her nice things.
It’s a pride thing.♦◊♦While this train of thinking does seem like a big fat pile of excuse, the numbers back it up. The The median age at first marriage last year was 28 years for men, and 26 for women, up slightly from 2009. In 1980, the median age for men was just under 25, and 22 for women.
but I’ve actually stopped dating a woman I was interested in because I wasn’t where I needed to be financially. Census report—“Number, Timing and Duration of Marriages and Divorces: 2009”—shows that Americans across all racial lines are waiting longer to marry.The two-carat engagement ring and ,000 wedding reception could be a childhood fantasy come to life, but the partner who loves, cherishes and supports you is a necessity. —the 1997 romantic comedy that made everyone think Kevin Smith was the next Woody Allen when he really just turned out to be Nicholas Sparks with Tourette’s—there’s a scene where Banky (Jason Lee) is trying to convince his best friend Holden (Ben Affleck) that the woman Holden has fallen in love with, Alyssa (played by a surprisingly fetching Joey Lauren Adams), is still a lesbian (she “became” straight after meeting Holden) and will eventually leave Holden and break his heart. ♦◊♦I’m reminded of this scene every time I remind people that the dating game isn’t exactly smooth sailing for every 21- to 35-year-old black man. Census, while only 24% of white women and 23% of Asian women have never been married, a staggering 45% of black women have never walked down the aisle, a fact that’s mainly due to the lack of eligible black male options. Not bad for a ghost.♦◊♦Berook’s statement reflected a trend I’ve noticed among the educated men in my social and occupational circles: a trend split into racial lines.If I had an already successful daughter, I’d want her to date an already successful man.From a personal standpoint, though, I wouldn’t even want to enter a serious relationship unless I had my shit together.