A few years ago, the book — boys get the same message, and even in this presumably enlightened age, I just can’t see a parent encouraging a son to “marry up.” Earlier this summer, a study (OK, funded by a credit report agency so I take it with a grain of salt) indicated financial responsibility and financial compatibility was more important or just as important as career ambition, physical attraction and sex and intimacy, especially for women.It never even occurred to me to worry about such things (I’ve never discussed credit ratings with a partner), but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t have paid it attention when it seemed like things were getting serious.Now that I’m at midlife, however, and helping to get two kids through college, hoping to retire one day, and dealing with the never-ending costs of living (my broken clavicle cost me of money, despite my health insurance, and my car appears to have an electrical problem, no doubt a pricey problem, that I need to deal with ASAP), I think about money a wee bit more.I still don’t equate it to whether I am happy or not (and never will), although I acknowledge money certainly makes things easier.While studies have shown that low-income women value marriage and have more traditional views about marriage and divorce than others, they don’t want to get hitched to a man who is going to drag them down.A man who isn’t contributing financially is a handicap, as one young single mother says in “What was his purpose?
As a man of self-made success, he wants the best return on his investment in business and in love.
The aspiring woman not only supports him in all pursuits, but also adds value and adventure to his life.
He is a sophisticated gentleman who seeks a woman with drive that parallels his own.
Some of these women have not dated in a long time and many be wary of men that that meet in shady places.
The internet is helping rich women date and men find them.