How to spot a liar in online dating
For example, they might say, “I’ve been hurt before by telling too much too soon,” which actually turns the tables on you to prove that you can be trusted — Red flag! You Are Not an ATM Machine If they ask for money, lock them out of your life.
Shut off communication immediately, and close all open doors if you have a hint that it is a sympathy scam.
For example, he may refuse to divulge his last name and for many people this is often a dead giveaway that the guy is married.
While it is normal for people to hold back initially, if the guy has something to hide, he will usually not reveal details about where he lives, what he does for a living, his family, his upbringing etc.
Someone claiming that a photo is from a July 4th fireworks party, who is dressed in a fur coat, in daylight, might be a dead giveaway that someone is lying.
Tip: Using a free inspection service that shows the location and time that a photo was originally taken can shed light on a photo liar. Cut and Paste Profile Alert Introductory letters on dating websites are often copied by catfish scammers.
Derailing You from the Dating Site Red flags should be raised if, right off the bat, they want to get you to instant message or email, taking you off of the dating site where you originally met.
Tip: Always create and use a unique email address that is different than your personal and professional addresses when setting up a dating website profile. Too Serious, Too Soon Watch out for someone rushing things.
Look for detail in photos — wedding rings, locations, activities, time of day, how they are dressed — to see if it matches.
It’s easy for some of the smartest people to lose all sight of common sense when they’re being reeled in by a catfish: an online imposter who tries to win your sympathy — and your love — by creating an elaborate scheme.
Award-winning technology reporter Kurt Knutsson, known around the country as Kurt the Cyber Guy, shares his top ten reality checks to see if you’re being baited by a catfish.
In fact, as a general rule, it is best to be suspicious of profiles without photos.
If you start interacting with someone who doesn't have a photo online, request them to add a photo and let them know you prefer not to communicate with them unless they put up a photo.