Dating someone with kid
(the concerns about introducing a new SO typically include dual sides; of a child being worried that you have someone new to take your attention/love away from them; AND independently, of someone to replace their other parent, if that's applicable). In my particular case both parents are still heavily involved but this would be applicable for both of us as we are both entering the dating world.
Luckily, we both get along well so we are trying to share a good approach for this sort of thing along with others involving our child.
You’ve just wasted months of your life and your emotional investment in a person.” My advice also would never be to introduce anyone you're not exclusive with.
If you're still seeing the other parent of the child on a regular basis, they may have something to say about your choice of partner and may cause friction in the relationship that you wouldn't want to expose your child to.
At the same time, kids should be involved in any decision that will affect them; to tell your kids, ‘we’re engaged,’ when they don’t even know the prospective spouse is just cruel." Don't wait too long to determine the seriousness of the relationship either.
Sorry for the long post, but if the child's other parent is involved, your new partner should meet them first.
As they're both adults, you can expect to get a guage for how they will interact with the child from the other parent, and make a determination from there..
You can make them feel even more assured and mention “your dad met Mike last week” and we all have your best interest at heart.
This will make the children feel relaxed and remove the pressure of them thinking they have to choose sides.