If you’ve managed to avoid the dark, horror and f***boi filled worlds of stashing and breadcrumbing, it might be worth giving breezing a go.
Basically, it’s just a catchy term for not giving a flying f***. For one thing, you avoid all the stress and intense analysis that comes with doing all the things you ‘should’ do when you’re dating – holding off on sex, not texting first, pretending to like a certain food or activity so you don’t put anyone off. There’s no slow reveal, no time-wasting, and you can quickly weed out people who aren’t right for you based on how they react to your authentic self.
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You may not be everyone's type but you are certainly pretty enough for plenty of people to fancy you. Dating is something very new to Britain which has come about mainly as a result of internet dating.
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Which is an approach to dating most of us deeply lazy people and overthinkers can get behind. You stop caring about rules, expectations, or the trying to be on your best behaviour at all times. You’re entirely yourself, you do what you like, and let stuff just breeze on right by. Of course, being breezy might be easier said than done.
In addition to the methods having been around since the dawn of dating, the term ‘breezing’ actually first popped up on the internet back in May. Not an acted out, manufactured breezy, created by screaming ‘I’M CHILL. To get in on breezing, all you have to do is ditch the games (delaying your replies on texts, for example), be clear about your emotions and what you want, and don’t get too hung up on things if they don’t work out.
But for all of us who’ve been too distracted by terrible dating experiences and diving into emotional piles of trash in the hopes that we’ll get our greedy paws on the romantic equivalent of a half-eaten sandwich, it’s worth recapping breezing. The only way you’ll be able to do that: By learning to value and respect yourself, your emotions, and your needs, first.
Breezing is all about feeling the feelings when you have them, expressing them freely, and enjoying the moment – but not letting those feelings take over your life or define who you are. Our advice: Work on yourself and your happiness before you even start going on dates.