Dating a woman going through divorce
Several times we ended up in an intimate situation which was initiated by him and I did not stop it. Tis murphys law to be used by the one you love and cannot have simply because you love him. However, I don't know if that helped your heart much. Your life will be on hold, waiting and hoping for the day that he can commit to you and only you. I am currently contemplating taking a break from the relationship until he has everything cleared up. Very heartbreaking considering I don't know if "I need space" means it's over, or that he needs to deal with the upcoming divorce.
I am struggling to get him out of my head and stop crying over the situation. I stayed away from any intimate contact with him for a couple of months but we have a strong mutual attraction and we ended up back in bed. I am aware that there are PLENTY of eligible SINGLE men who have so much to offer..including crazy drama. I have chosen not to ask questions and just give him the space he requested.
He says he needs his space and he is up and down with his emotions. Let him talk and let him settle his business and give him his space without pressure and guilt. I do indeed feel that he is backing out of the relationship --tonight when he texted me he used my first name and not the usual "sweetie". Take deep breaths and allow yourself to cry for awhile. If you take care of yourself, you will be stronger and can better handle what happens in the future.
I am deeply sadened and feel I've done something to cause him to want to end this relationship. I would think he is going through reality phase of a very difficult time. Lovingly give him his space and let him work his man thing out. We have hardly spoken since returning from a vacation that ended with him cancelling our valentines plans. For example, if he needs someone to talk to, he may just turn to you again. Well it has been a week since my relationship ended and I am still crying.
The last 6 months have not been good, he goes hot and cold and I asked him several times was he just interested in me for sex and he alsways said no and the fact I even asked such a question was nuts.
Yeah, unfortunately..you let a guy be friends with you after, he will recreate the relationship and dictate new terms. Men know we want relationships and they have learned to carrot dangle and they get what they want and we get to sit there and jump hoops. It lasted about 15 month and just this passed weekend we had the "talk" initiated by me.I was happy before I met him, and he came into my life leading me to believe that we would fall in love and end up together forever and now I know that he never really wanted me.Since I told him I had to break up I have contacted him like the stupid fool that I am, he has replied nicely, but then I texted back that I miss him and I didnt get a reply. I thought I was the one who could get him through it and that once he was done we would live happily ever after NOT!!I guess he isnt trying to lead me on....anymore that is. that should tell you something especially how he is acting towards you now. For all you ladies out there even thinking of getting involved w/ a married man going through a divorce... Unhappiness is all that resulted from the relationship.I have to stay stong and try and getmy life back to a happy place becuase I know that if this drags on any longer it will just prolong my pain. now you know to never get involve with a person who is going thru a divorce. It turned my whole world upside down and not for the better.